One of the reasons I love my job is the people we meet. People who have suffered trauma are often the kindest, empathetic and understanding people I’ve ever met. This post from PsychCentral explains well this phenomena. Below is a powerful meditation that brings strength to our most vulnerable moments. (Published in PsychCentral By Sarah Newman, MA ) “Facing the fact that we’ve been abused isn’t simple. It’s wrapped up in feelings of being deeply flawed.
This is an updated post from another a year ago. Here a highly intellectually focused researcher who surprises herself and begins a process of transformation from valuing strength in stoicism to embracing vulnerability as the core of strength. The first video was recorded in 2010. The second was released early this month. From Ted.com: Shame is an unspoken epidemic, the secret behind many forms of broken behavior. Brené Brown, whose earlier talk on vulnerability became a viral hit, explores what can happen when people confront their shame head-on.
How we integrate or make sense of our experiences have a lot to do with how they affect us. That’s just common sense. However, the drive within psychology towards a research and evidence based practice standards has led to a move away from seeking the consensus of practicing professionals in the field on the formation of theory. A theory informed practice has been the standard for many years. Experts construct a theory based on their professional knowledge, including research.
I meet the most incredible people in my work. Struggle as they might with various vices like substance abuse, serial monogamy, stormy relationships or keeping a job, the people I’ve worked with consistently have a surplus of one thing I highly value: empathy. Image via Wikipedia It seems as if people who have suffered greatly often have the ability to understand other’s pain at a deeper level than most people. Often they have a depth of insight that far exceeds their “normal” peers.
This is the eighth in a series of articles about emotional intelligence for personal growth. Emotions give our experiences a sort of color, a dimension of experience very different from other senses, different from even thoughts. Yet many of us find our emotions at times more of an enemy than a friend. Our emotions serve a purpose, one that is not entirely obvious. Most current theories of emotion share the assumption that emotions serve an adaptive function in human life.
Tragically another music icon ends an incredibly creative life at age 27. Besides the uncanny fact that so many (10) incredibly talented musicians who died at 27, there is the other apparent truth that they all had everything their peers could have wanted. They were incredibly successful, had huge fan base, and were selling albums and tickets to concerts galore. What could possibly have gone wrong? Ms. Winehouse said living dangerously generated her creativity, and she was often photographed half-dressed, wild-eyed and disheveled.
Arguments over who’s right may be the most common topic of disagreement anywhere and by anybody. Check out the insights Kathryn Schulz, in her book, Being Wrong, has to offer. Related articles Up Front: Kathryn Schulz (nytimes.com) Embrace Your Fallibility – Kathryn Schulz: On being wrong (projectmanagementessentials.wordpress.com) The Fear of Making Mistakes and Interesting Insights on Being Wrong (psychcentral.com) Gazing in the Looking Glass without Self-punishment – Emotional Intelligence for Personal Growth Part VII (davemsw.
I quit smoking 28 years ago. The final effort started the previous year on “Great American Smokeout“, 29 years ago. I’m very glad I succeeded. I used to joke that quitting smoking was easy, I’d done it 100s of times. Unfortunately it was all too true. I struggled with attempts to quite smoking over most of my adult years. It’s a major bad habit, with the further complication of addiction to Nicotine.
This is the seventh in a series of articles about emotional intelligence for personal growth.
Many people are unsure what they feel. Some deny feeling anything at all. Others report boredom much of the time and seek reckless excitement when they can. Still others have never felt like they fit in. They may have experienced being ignored, picked on, or even being treated like scapegoat. Others seem to have an emotional on/off switch; they’re either rational or raging.
This is the sixth in a series of articles about emotional intelligence for personal growth. In keeping with the idea that emotional intelligence is one of the foundational concepts of mental health, I dedicate this installment to May, Mental Health Month. It is often said that life is suffering. Some of that suffering is unavoidable. Life has a way of throwing us adversity. The pain of physical distress and illness as well as the psychological pain of loss is unavoidable.